It’s All in Your Head

It’s All in Your Head

Ease! Peace! Enjoyment! Happiness! Contentment! Bliss! You, too, can experience these in the comfort of your own home!

It’s the Pamco EZ-LYF Joymaker! Just put your crappy life in at this end, turn the crank, and the crap is all clean off leaving you with a wonderful life you love!

Ok, so I made that up. On the other hand, we can turn our crappy lives into a life we love living.

Bottom line; we are the leader of our own life. Bottom line; we choose our attitude. Bottom line; we steer our own ship.

In the privacy of our own minds, we choose, or we stay stuck. We choose to keep things as they are going, no matter how bad they are, or we choose to change it.

In the privacy of our own hearts, we know that we can’t change each other. We know we have only so much of an impact on the outside stuff. We know that the place where we can really effect change is in our minds. It’s all in our head.

Oh, those doctors didn’t mean what I mean when they told me “it’s all in your head.” They may have been saying, “I don’t have a freakin’ clue why you are in pain, so I will blame you because I feel inadequate.” But the solution to my troubles is in my head. A huge portion of what I think of as my troubles have come about because of my choices.

Why could it be easy? Why would it be easy? Why is it just so easy?

When I focus on how hard my life is, my life is hard. When I look for all the ways it’s easy, it really and truly gets easier.

Do you believe me about that yet? Have you tried it on the little things? Why is my timing perfect? Why do things go my way? Why do I find what I want?

I use Creative Questions on my way to the bus. I use Creative Questions in the parking lot. I use Creative Questions when I go to the store, or check the mailbox. Really. Practicing on the small, the medium, so that when I need ‘em for the big stuff, I’ve got it. Then, I have already made the new grooves in my brain with my good Creative Questions.

I use Creative Questions before challenging phone calls, or before sending certain emails. I use them to help me imagine the best outcome. Mostly, then, I get those outcomes. The first few times I tried this, I was blown away. Now I mostly take it for granted. Why do I know the outcome?

When I set me up with good Creative Questions, my whole physical being shifts a little. That means my voice will shift a bit. Between my NLP stuff and voice over training, I can tell you, your emotions show in your voice. I know, it’s wacky, but you can hear people smiling over the phone. You really can. And if you have a smile in your voice when you call customer service, you will have waaay better results than if you call bent.

The more I remember to use these tools, the easier my life gets. It’s easy for me to feel relaxed. Why do I feel so relaxed? It’s easy to get to peaceful. Why am I peaceful? It’s easy to think that stuff is easy. Why is it all so easy ? I practice and then I have it when the really big stuff hits. I know I just said that, but it’s important.  Maybe the Pamco EZ-LYF Joymaker is just that easy.

How have I changed from “why is it so hard?” to “why is it all just so easy?”

(c) Pam Guthrie 2013 all rights reserved 12202013

Creating Opportunity

Creating Opportunity

Sometimes I crack me up. I have started today’s contemplation three times. The first time was snarky. The second time was dumb.

I’m hoping three’s the charm.

I pulled the “Why do I trust?” card this morning. How have I let go of fixing my life to allowing it to unfold?

Fixing vs. unfolding. Effortful vs. effortless. Tense vs. relaxed.

When I allow my life to unfold, I am assuming the best at the heart of it all. When I am fixing my life, I am focused on the brokenness. The situation I’m in can be the same one, the difference is in attitude, my point of view, my outlook.

When I am fixing my life, I am focused on the problem. I worry about it. I fantasize about how things will go. What if it turns out badly? What if it turns out worse than that? What if it’s so awful I could die? What if other bad things happen when I’m trying to fix this bad thing? What if I can’t do this? What if it all blows up in my face?

When I allow my life to unfold, I trust that I will find my way through whatever happens, and come out richer on the other side. I assume that. I expect that. I haven’t been disappointed.

It’s subject to my interpretation.

I would rather be relaxed and happy, thank you very much. So I choose relaxed. I choose to trust. I choose to feel safe. I choose to feel protected.

When I first started on this path, I thought that choosing to feel safe was dumb. Life is full of danger, am I right? Bad guys are around every corner. When I had that attitude, I ran into them often. Since I decided that I was safe, something happened and I mostly don’t. I mean, most people are good, am I right? Weird.

My attitude creates my world.

When I expect to find the bad, I find bad. I know the outcome will suck.

When I expect to find the good, I find good. I know the outcome will please me.

Stuff is always going to happen. Stuff that happens is neutral. I choose which way I will judge it. I choose to judge it as a good thing, or a bad thing. When I choose to find the good, I feel powerful. I feel competent, I feel uplifted and like I am contributing something to the greater good. When I choose to find the bad, I feel doomed, I feel depressed, I feel drained, and like the world is depleting me.

Next time something happens, you can play the game. Put on your creative genius hat, and ask yourself, “How is this a bad thing?” Come up with one or two answers. Notice how your body feels.

Now ask yourself, “How is this a good thing?” Come up with one or two answers, and notice how your body feels. If this seems challenging to you, keep at it. Believe me, it’s worth it.

How have I changed from being pissed off by the cloud to relishing the silver lining?

(c) Pam Guthrie 2013 all rights reserved 10102013