Showing posts with label taking things personally. Show all posts
Showing posts with label taking things personally. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Activating or Adapting

Activating or Adapting

I am always impressed with the stuff we can come up with to fret about. A wonderful way to avoid looking at our own stuff is to activate against something big outside us.

There are things in the world that we care about, but that is very different from activating against something. When I am activated, I get all het up. I get angry and scared, often at faceless entities who have done something I  see as egregious and which may have nothing to do with me directly.

When we activate like this, we like to try to get others to activate with us. That means I want you to feel scared and angry, too.

Angry and scared is not a place of power for us. We make strange decisions when we are angry and scared. We can do things that hurt others, that we regret. We can make decisions that backfire and get us in trouble.

Why does my natural environment support me? Why do I respect my natural environment? How do I appreciate nature?

If I believe that my natural environment, like the Universe, supports me, I want to be respectful of it. That means I am mindful of what I am consuming, and how I dispose of my waste. It means that I am mindful of chemicals I use, and look for low-impact stuff. I think about my little snails, and how tiny they are, and how a miniscule about of pesticides could make them sick. Caring for such tiny, sweet creatures helps me keep in mind that it’s not all just about humans.

Sometimes, it feels like Mother Nature is out to get us. It’s too hot. It’s too cold. It’s too dry, or too humid, or rainy, or there is too much snow. Instead of going with the flow and adapting, we get mad. Sometimes, we even take the weather personally. I did.

I took a lot of stuff personally. It was exhausting.

I took random comments on TV personally. I took things I heard strangers say personally. I took decisions made by the government personally. Can you imagine what I did with stuff I heard from people I knew that was actually directed toward me?

Somewhere along the line, I decided to stop doing that. I like believing that the Universe and Mother Nature support me. I like looking for how that support comes when the weather gets too-too. It means that I have to take responsibility for me.

That means that I acknowledge that I interpret my world. I filter things according to my beliefs. When I am responsible for me, I adapt rather than fight. I care, and do caring things rather than activate. I have compassion for you, even if you annoy me. I have choices.

I like to spend time on my porch regardless of the weather, except if it is getting me soaked. Well, even then, sometimes. I adapt by having gear that keeps me warm in freezing temperatures, or by soaking my feet in cool water when it is really hot. I adapt by relaxing all the way through; my muscles, my feelings, my thoughts. I adapt by looking for how I this situation supports me. It really works.

Why am I comfy? What makes me feel cheerful? How do I choose?

How have I changed from taking it all personally to enjoying feeling adaptable?

(c) Pam Guthrie 2014 all rights reserved 07152014

Saturday, June 28, 2014

The Beauty in the Mirror

The Beauty in the Mirror

Who do you see in the mirror? Do you see a divine and infinite being? Do you see someone whose beauty shines through? Do you see a beautiful human?

I know you are going to find this hard to believe, but some of us look in the mirror and don’t like what we see. We disapprove of our features, we disapprove of the person who wears them. Poor we. We see our image, and we make a bad face, or have a bad feeling.

How do you think it makes us feel when we scorn ourselves like that? Yeah, kinda rotten.

Why do I like my looks? How do I feel attractive? What makes me so good looking?

This is another one of those things that’s all about attitude. When I don’t like me, I won’t see my self, but only my dislike in the mirror. When I don’t like me, the tiniest flaw will balloon into a deformity. When I don’t like me, I can take my own, lovely body and face and transmogrify them into something I see as hideous.

Saying no to my own self is the ultimate in resistance, the big clench. It is so hard for me to relax when I am rejecting my own body, the home of my spirit.

Why do I love me? What makes me appreciate my appearance? How do I like my face?

When I start seeing who I am when I look in the mirror, when I start seeing my own, sweet self, I start seeing that beautiful person looking back at me. And she often smiles a wonderful smile at the sight of me. I see a person who has thrived through many challenging times. I see a person who has cultivated a loving heart and positive outlook. I see a person I have come to love.

Many of us have physical stuff that often leaves us feeling disgruntled. What we do then is take it personally, as though our bodies are doing this to us, and we don’t like it. I hear some of us saying, “How am I not to take it personally? This is my body.”

We have bodies to support us. We wouldn’t get very far without them. Each of us has things to learn as we go through our lives, different things at different times, and our physical circumstances are here to help us learn some of those things. Seriously. When I can look at my physical situation dispassionately, with a little distance, not taking things personally, I can start to consider what my lessons might be.

Do I need to learn something about humility? Or acceptance? Is this an opportunity to practice going with the flow of my life? Or to love me as I am? Is it about spending more time being present? Or perhaps I need to pay a little more attention to my own well being. Only I can determine what my lesson or lessons are, only I can learn them.

When I look at the current situation as an opportunity for growth, everything changes. I am not saying don’t feel what you feel. Feel it, then let it go and get on with living. Notice your language. Be kind and respectful of the situation,

How have I changed from disapproving of my body to loving it as it is?

(c) Pam Guthrie 2014 all rights reserved 06282014