The Secret Communication

The Secret Communication

Is liking to learn stuff a hobby? If so, then I would say it surpasses reading as my favorite hobby. Learning stuff is a byproduct of awareness, as any good student of Sherlock Holmes can tell you.

Observing us is fascinating. Everybody is telling you everything about themselves all the time.

We don’t even need words. Right now, think of a confident person, how do they look, how do they sound? Now think of a very sad person, how do they look? How do they sound? Can you tell the difference? Of course you can.

Our posture, our gait, our facial expressions, the ways we hold our hands, turn our feet, even the lines and spots on our faces speak to our stories.

We know a lot of this stuff unconsciously. A lot of that information is processed in our belly-brains; gut feelings and all. We call it instinct, or hunches. We get a feeling that someone might be trouble. We get a feeling that someone might be helpful. We get a feeling, and learn to trust it.

One of the things I love about living in the 21st century is that a lot of this information has been codified. You can now consciously learn what your body and face are telling the world about your life. You can learn to read others easily, and the more you practice it, the easier it gets, like anything else.

There are the seven universal emotions, and their representational facial expressions. Universal. That means, the expressions you see here and all the way over there are indicating the same thing. Convenient.

There are cultural gestures that vary in meaning from one culture to the other. Learn some of these when you are going traveling. It will make your trip more fun.

The habit of perfectionism, a heightened intuition, focus, are all written between the eyebrows.

A person’s foot can tell you when they are done talking to you.

The pitch of their voice tells you stuff, the timber, the tone and tempo.

And, on some level, you already know a lot of that, just because you are alive.

As we go through our lives, and pay attention, become aware, we learn more and more about how to get along with each other. As we learn to notice the stories we are telling each other all the time, we find it easier to be compassionate. As we become more aware of our own body language, we can start to bring to light unconscious material and then we can address those old, buried topics and let them go. This kind of knowledge can help set us free.

How have I changed from thinking that you are a mystery to knowing what you are really telling me?

(c) Pam Guthrie 2013 all rights reserved 06192013