Ka-Ching!

Ka-Ching!

Money is such an interesting thing. We have a thousand words for it, we have a thousand feelings about it. Can you imagine how messed up stuff would be if we had the same kind of emo-craze around electricity? Or water? Or air?

Money is energy, flowing energy. Simple, clean. But boy, oh, boy, what we do with it!

We feel all the basic emotions around money, and then we make it complicated with mislearnings and feelings about the mislearnings, and then we act on that and do weird things with our money, or for money, or against money.

Some of us act like it’s a sentient entity that’s out to get us. I’ve worked with people who realized that they saw money as their hateful, miserly grandpa, who beat them, and, although he had a lot of money, and they were cold and hungry, never helped them. Or as a cold and calculating businessman who thought money should only be spent on necessities, anything else was wasteful. Clients who saw money as a wild jock who spent spent spent on anything fun, with nothing left over for basic needs.

Wowza.

In the dark ages, money scared me so much. I saw it as the source of misery and stress. I saw money as loud and angry and violent. Certainly, that kind of energy was something I wanted to stay away from.

One of my oldest and dearest friends gave me a huge gift many years ago. I was confessing, with great shame, my horrible money secrets. He reacted with no feelings, like we were discussing a math problem. My shame and misery fell away, and money turned into energy, like electricity. Clean, pure energy, flowing in and flowing out, pooling here and there. What a transformation.

Why do I have a happy, peaceful, relationship with money? Why is my relationship with money so fruitful and fun? Why is money an expression of joy?

Choosing to enjoy our relationship with money softens up a lot of things for a lot of us. As we change the way we think of money, from power to energy, for example, or from violence to love, we will alter our relationship with the things we purchase, or sell.

Choosing to see our relationship with money as a celebration, as an endless course of gratitude-makers, as a vital and positive complement to our life, we shift our relationship with the people whom we have given financial power over us. Parents, spouses, bosses, customers, debtors, all can leave us feeling financially overwhelmed.

When we reframe our relationship with money, we can free ourselves from the feelings and negative thoughts we used put on those particular relationships. That frees up a ton of energy we can use to bring more money into our lives in positive and loving ways.

How have I changed from having an unpleasant relationship with money, to loving my financial interactions?

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